Respect comes before love

"Respect comes before love." - words heard from my beloved husband from the times when we were just in the beginning of our friendship. 

A relationship may take decades to build up but it takes only a few minutes to break it up. Such is the hurt of a man or woman relationship that need caring and look after every day. These are significant and important tips to save your relationship.

It is a tender seedling when you meet each other, which needs nourishment from both the partners as it grows.The hard truth perhaps is that mostly you land up giving more that you take. Thus a break up advice is difficult to provide, as the reason for the break up is an important issue to be tackled first, and the key to this secret door rests with the individuals in the couple. But break up advice for people who want to save their relationship is more comfortable to provide. 

Here are some universal thoughts on the subject:

• Learn to accept reality and move on: If you have harbored a particular type of perfect dream of your relationship, perhaps you would be one of the firsts to get disappointed. However strongly you may feel when you meet your partner, remember, things may not be the way you 'dreamed' it to be.

There is no fairy tale magic which happens in earthly relationships which is more bumps than walks in the Garden of Eden on moonlit nights. To make any relationship work, it takes two to put in their efforts. You need to communicate to your partner about extending a bit more to make both hands clap. Learn to accept your partner's personality, attitudes and habits and never to correct too many things at the same time. Remember, we are what we are. Any change forced on us would make any one resent.

• Inject humor in your life: Laughter is the best medicine they say. It is not just a medicine but a daily necessity to make anyone tick. Any relationship can thrive if even one has a good sense of humor. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself and watch the ease and comfort increase in your relationship. Many times when there is no laughter in the house, try to walk that extra mile, to inject humor from external sources like getting humorous friends over, watching funny movies together, etc.

• Respect and trust comes before love: While love may trigger a relationship but it is respect and trust which make it last. Admire some quality in your partner and encourage him or her to culture this more. Respect your partner for what he or she is and not because you have made him or her according to your wishes. Respecting your partners' choices and preferences is also important. Trust can not develop overnight and inculcate this quality and regard its importance in a relationship.

• Change your perspective: It is selfish to view everything from your own point of view. Learn to be compassionate and look at things from your partner's perspective. You would be surprised at what you find.

Capacity to give and forgive is one of the best ingredients which can make a relationship get stronger. So the best piece of breakup advice one can give to couples who wish to save their relationship is this: Get into your partner's shoes and see the problem. You would know exactly what to do to save the relationship.

The articles of an Ancient Egypt Blogger - part 3

I hope Nile swallow you, rascal priests!!! HARUMYYYYYYYYY!!!

  Article written on September 11, 2300 i.e.n.

Have you seen them all sitting aligned nicely to the official opening ceremony of the new canal for irrigation? Of course!!! So that all people see them!

Until when to stand with all this corruption and hypocrisy of the great ones that once they arrive in good positions, all they care is to feed their big maws ???!!!

I'll better leave in Syria or Babylon and I deny all this morass from Egypt once and for all!

The articles of an Ancient Egypt Blogger - part 2

Crowds and roar of donkeys

                        Article written on May 1, 2300 i.e.n.

This morning, as usual I left the temple of Horus, because my job is there, near. When I turn to right next to the clay jugs market, all traffic was running wild.

OK! So I understand that it has to be someone who manage the traffic, who is passing and when, to supervise the flow of carts, animals and carts with merchandise. But all those who are put there to supervise the traffic you can find them all day in pubs and taverns, and they spy to catch anyone who's not circulating according to the traffic rules and to bust him hoping that they will get some bribe.

I know that these words are dust in the wind, but ... FOLKS! IT IS REALLY NECESSARY TO PULL THE DONKEY EARS TO BURP? Continuously? Don't you see that some are stuck in front?

I'm talking to the walls.

The articles of an Ancient Egypt Blogger - part 1

First blogger appeared in ancient Egypt around 2300 BC, and his posts were recently discovered in the archives of ancientegypt@pharaoh.nil. I present you below a few articles written more than 4300 years, that are very interesting.

 Pharaoh? He is a jerk!

                           article written on April 22, 2300 i.e.n.

I do not know anymore how we will stand with this tyranny and corruption. Really I do not know, people seem to be blind. The promises made during elections are forgotten so quickly that you can swear that politicians have serious amnesia. Oh, on the all Gods and on sacred goddess Ishtar!!!

Not to say that things are becoming worse. I'm tired of infrastructure projects that will not go away ever!!!

The Great Pyramid we work on for over 20 years! For over 20 years, can you realize this? And there is no interest from people to go to engineers, to request a detailed schedule of works or to speak with the consultant. No, all are on their way like sheep!!!

I am surrounded every day by the same ignorance and indifference!!!  I better jump into the Nile, really!!!!

26 June - International Day in Support of Victims of Torture

The United Nations’ (UN) International Day in Support of Victims of Torture is annually observed on June 26 to remind people that human torture is not only unacceptable – it is also a crime. 

What do people do?

Rehabilitation centers and human rights organizations around the world celebrate the UN’s International Day in Support of Victims of Torture on June 26 each year. The day serves as a reminder to people that torture is a crime. This event gives everyone a chance to unite and voice their opinions against human torture.

Organizations, including the International Rehabilitation Council for Torture Victims and Amnesty International, have played an active role in organizing events around the world to promote the day. Activities may include: photo exhibitions; the distribution of posters and other material to boost people’s awareness of issues related to human torture; and television advertisements.

Public life

The International Day in Support of Victims of Torture is not a public holiday and public life is not affected.

Background

On June 26, 1987, the Convention against Torture came into force. It was an important step in the process of globalizing human rights and acknowledging that torture and inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment should be universally illegal. In 1997 the United Nations General Assembly decided to mark this historic date and designated June 26 each year as the International Day in Support of Victims of Torture.

The first International Day in Support of Victims of Torture was held on June 26, 1998. It was a day when the United Nations appealed to all governments and members of civil society to take action to defeat torture and torturers everywhere. That same year marked the 50th anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, which proclaims that “no one shall be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment”.

Symbols

The United Nations’ logo is often associated with marketing and promotional material for this event. It features a projection of a world map (less Antarctica) centered on the North Pole, enclosed by olive branches. The olive branches are a symbol for peace, and the world map represents all the people of the world. The logo appears in colors such as black on a white or light yellow background.

HISTORICAL BACKGROUND:

Sixty years ago, Eleanor Roosevelt and the U.S. government worked doggedly to create the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Mrs. Roosevelt knew many successes in her long years of public service, yet she regarded the writing and passage of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights as her greatest accomplishment. She envisioned it as an international Magna Carta and Bill of Rights for people everywhere. She worked so hard (and drove others hard as well) that one delegate charged that the length of the drafting committee meetings violated his own human rights.

What would Mrs. Roosevelt make of the current U.S. debate over the use of torture in the war on terrorism as we saw that American Soldiers are doing in the warS? Article 5 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights prohibits torture, unequivocally stating, “No one shall be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.” So serious was this basic human right that the drafters placed it at the very beginning of the document, right after the articles stating that all human beings are free and equal and enjoy “the right to life, liberty and security of person.” Articles 6 to 11 guaranteed a person’s legal rights, including freedom from arbitrary arrest or detention, a right to an impartial trial and a presumption of innocence; these were the “easy” articles from the U.S. perspective.

EU member states responsibility
 
The absolute ban on torture and ill-treatment is reflected in Article 4 of the Charter on Fundamental Rights of the EU, which states that “No one shall be subjected to torture or to inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment” and Article 3 of the Council of Europe Convention on the Protection of Human Rights and Fundamental Freedoms with an identical wording.

As Members of the Council of Europe, EU Member States have all ratified the European Convention for the Prevention of Torture which provides for visits to places of detention by the European Committee for the Prevention of Torture (CPT). The EU actively supports the valuable work of the Council of Europe in this area – inter alia through granting full access by the CPT to all places of detention and fully complying with its recommendations.

Member States are legally obliged under the EC Directive laying down minimum standards for the reception of asylum seekers (article 20) to ensure that torture survivors receive necessary treatment. As a result of a recent EU-wide survey, the International Rehabilitation Council for Torture Victims (IRCT) has concluded that only a minority of member states comply with their obligations by providing sufficient funding to national rehabilitation centres and through their development aid. IRCT has also denounced the insufficient contribution by member states to the UN Voluntary Fund for Torture Victims (UNVFT), which represents the second main source of funding for centres around the world after the EIDHR.

Torture victims in the EU
 
In spite of an absolute ban on torture and ill-treatment, enshrined in the International Bill of Rights and in the UN Convention against Torture, the practice of torture and other forms of ill-treatment remains widespread. According to Amnesty International, 102 countries had cases of torture and ill-treatment by security forces, police and other state authorities in 2006.

IRCT evaluates the number of torture survivors in the EU at roughly 400.000, the vast majority of which are refugees. IRCT considers that only 16.000 of these individuals receive medical, psychological and social support on an annual basis. It is also estimated that around 20% of asylum seekers in the EU have been subjected to some form of violence or torture.