Accept me with simplicity! Accept them with simplicity! Accept yourself with simplicity!

You must be careful to do not to let yourself manipulated by any person, whatever are the intentions. Listen only to your heart. It is your inner teacher.  

People around you have always judged you, and you have automatically accepted their ideas. You suffer from all these judgments, which at your turn turn, you throw over the others. But this is totally unnatural and mankind suffer from it. 

If you want to not be trained in this game, the first condition is not to judge yourself.

Accept yourself, humbly, with imperfections, failures, mistakes, weaknesses. No need to pretend otherwise. Be simply yourself and tell yourself: "I'm afraid, I'm afraid of the dark nights. I'm afraid to walk at night in the woods." What is wrong with this? It's something human.

Once you accept yourself as you are, you'll be able to accept others too, because you will realize that they suffer from the same disease.

And the fact that you accept the others, will help them accept themselves in return.
We can reverse the entire process: you accept yourself and this will make you able to accept others. And because  they are accepted by others, they know for the first time the beauty of acceptance - they experience this state of peace and begin, at their turn, to accept the others.

If mankind reaches the point where everyone is accepted just as it is, 90 percent of all unhappiness will just disappear by itself. This unhappiness has no basic and your hearts will be opened by itself, your love will pour over others.

The Destiny

During a crucial battle, a general decided to attack, even that his army was far outnumbered by the enemy. He was confident in victory, but his men were filled with doubt.  

On the way to the battlefield they stopped at a shrine. After he prayed with his soldiers, the general pulled out a coin and said:
"I'll throw this coin now. If the head will come out, we will win, if it will be Tails, we will lose. Now it's the moment that destiny shows to us. "

Said and done! He threw the coin into the air. All were looking forward to see what fate has decided. Head was out. Soldiers were relieved. Boldly they attacked the enemy and came out victorious.

 
After the battle, a lieutenant remarked: "No one can change destiny!"

"Indeed" replied the General to the lieutenant and he showed him the coin. It had the head on both sides.

The Magician

Houdini was the greatest magician of his time. He was a fantastic robber locks. Claimed he could escape from any cell in the world in less than an hour.
In a small town in Britain was built a new jail and Houdini was challenged to try to escape. Since he liked challenges and money, he accepted the proposal.
When the big day arrived, a lot of people and media representatives were there. Houdini stepped confident in the cell and the door was closed. He immediately took off his coat and started to work. He hided inside of his belt a piece of steel strap flexible and tough, 25-inches long, which then he used it to try to open the lock.

After 30 minutes his trust was gone. After an hour he was bathed in sweat. After 2 hours Houdini simply collapsed over the door which opened immediately. In fact the door was never closed, except in the imagination of the great magician.

The door was closed only in the mind of Houdini, but he acted as if he had to beat a thousand locks. Exactly like Houdini, we are prisoners of our own minds. To escape the "mental prison", we must first realize and accept this and then find ways to free ourselves.

True Love

Moses Mendelsson, the grandfather of the famous German composer, was a man far from being handsome. On the contrary, besides the fact that he was of short, he had a grotesque hunchback.
One day he was visited by a merchant from Hamburg who had a very pretty girl, whose name was Frumtje.

Moses fall in love with her in a desperate way, but the girl was looking to him with reluctance.

When he visited the home of the merchant, before he leaves, Moses took the courage and went upstairs in the room where the girl was sitting to tell her a few last words. She was heavenly beauty and he is struggling in the throes of hell when the girl refused to even look at him. After several attempts to relate a conversation, Moses shyly asked:

- Do you know why marriages are made in Heaven?
- Yes, the girl said, while she was still looking into the ground. But, you know why?
- Yes, I know, he said. You see, in heaven at the birth of each boy, the Lord announces which girl will be his wife. When I was born, it was shown to me my future bride.

  God said to me:
- Your bride will have a hunchback!
Then I said to God:
- God, a hunched woman would be a tragedy. God, give me the hump and let her be beautiful.
Fascinated by his words, Frumtje looked up from the floor, and she accepted him in marriage, being a faithful wife to him.

The meaning of LIFE

A teacher finishes his class and then he say the usual words:
- Questions?
One student said:
- Sir, what is the meaning of life?
One of the students, which was about to leave, began to laugh. Professor looked extensively to the student searching if the question was a serious one. He understood that it is.
- I will respond.
He took out from his pocket a wallet and from that wallet a piece from a mirror, not bigger than a coin. Then he said:
- I was a child during the war. One day I found a mirror shattered on the street. I kept the largest shard.This it is. I started playing with it and I was excited to see how I could with the help of light reflection to clear up the darkest corners, where the sun never gets: deep holes, cracks, hiding places. I kept the little piece.  

Becoming a man, I understood that it was not a simple child's play, but a foreshadowing of what I have done in my life.

I myself, I am a glimpse from a mirror that I have not seen it one piece. By through what I have, however, I can bring light, truth, understanding, knowledge, kindness, gentleness in people's most hidden place from their hearts and change something in some of them. Perhaps others will do the same if  they see me doing this. I think that this lies the meaning of life.

Do you know about what I will speak today?

 

Once upon a time, there was an Eastern Prophet who, once a year, meet with his followers who were willing to hear him speaking.

On the first day the Prophet asked them: "Do you know about what I will speak today?" The disciples answered in chorus: "No!". 

"Then - the prophet said - if you do not know, is useless for me to stay here to waste my time. See you in another time." 

 

Disciples felt very offended and decided that to the next meeting to respond all of them with " Yes! "

The next day, the Prophet asked again: "Do you know about what I will speak today?" 

They all responded, "Yes!". Then the wise Prophet answered: "If you know, it's useless to speak."  

And he left this time too.  

Disciples, even more offended than first time, had a brilliant idea: "At the next meeting, half of us will answer yes and the other half no. In this way the Prophet will not have a way out. "

The third day he asked again: "Do you know about what I will speak today?" Half of the disciples responded yes, and half no.  

Then the Prophet exclaimed: "Good! I am very pleased with your answer and please everyone of you who answered yes to tell others what I wanted to say."

The Prophet left this time and the disciples never saw him again.

What thought raised in your mind the Prophet's history? Think carefully! Meditate on the story of the Prophet!

Every smile we meet on our way makes growing inside us the love for life and for others.

It makes us to forget the past, makes the future worth to be lived and gives us the chance to born again.

You Say Goodbye And I Say Hello

What we see depends mainly on what we look for - JOHN LUBBOCK

In his book The Art of Happiness, the Dalai Lama notes a Greek fable on perspective. 

Once there was a disciple of a Greek Philosopher who was commanded by his master for three years to give money to everyone who insulted him. When this period of trial was over the master said to him, “Now you can go to Athens and learn wisdom.” 

When the disciple was entering Athens, he met a certain wise man who sat at the gate insulting everybody who came and went. He also insulted the disciple, who burst out laughing. 

“Why do you laugh when I insult you,” said the wise man. 

“Because,” said the disciple, “for three years I have been paying for this kind of thing and now you give it to me for nothing.” 

“Enter the city,” said the wise man, “it is all yours.” 

If we want to own the city, we have to learn how to change our outlook at will. The ability to change our perspective, viewing our problems from different angles, requires that we keep an open, compliant mind. It also takes practice. 

The Dali Lama said, “Generally speaking, once you’re in a difficult situation, it isn’t possible to change your attitude simply by adopting a particular thought once or twice. Rather it’s a process of learning, training, and getting used to new viewpoints that enables you to deal with the difficulty.” 

If you are in a trading slump it pays to look at the situation from different angles. You have to train yourself to focus on the positive aspects through knowledge and practice. For example, by being educated about the previous magnitudes and durations of your draw downs you could conclude “Hey, I should be looking forward to a prosperous period soon,” instead of, “Boy I can’t do anything right.” 

In a trading world that is characterized by unexpected events, we will see volatility and sloppy periods of trading. So, let’s expect that. Let’s swallow that fact and not be surprised when it happens. We know no one trades without draw down periods, so let’s educate ourselves to what these periods have looked like in the past. By adopting the process of changing perspective we will be in better shape to maintain our composure in the stormy times, and stay focused on the long term.

When night is over and the day starts

A wise old man and asked his disciples.

 
-How do you know when the night is over and starts the day?
-I'll tell you! rushed a disciple. When you can distinguish from far away the sheep from a dog!
-No! replied the old man.
 

"Could be the beginning of the day", said another, when seeing from far a tree, you can tell if it is a peach or a fig.
-No! insisted the wise old man.
-Then how can we know? cried the disciples.
-When looking to a man and you see in him a brother! Otherwise, any time of day would be, it will still be night!

Respect comes before love

"Respect comes before love." - words heard from my beloved husband from the times when we were just in the beginning of our friendship. 

A relationship may take decades to build up but it takes only a few minutes to break it up. Such is the hurt of a man or woman relationship that need caring and look after every day. These are significant and important tips to save your relationship.

It is a tender seedling when you meet each other, which needs nourishment from both the partners as it grows.The hard truth perhaps is that mostly you land up giving more that you take. Thus a break up advice is difficult to provide, as the reason for the break up is an important issue to be tackled first, and the key to this secret door rests with the individuals in the couple. But break up advice for people who want to save their relationship is more comfortable to provide. 

Here are some universal thoughts on the subject:

• Learn to accept reality and move on: If you have harbored a particular type of perfect dream of your relationship, perhaps you would be one of the firsts to get disappointed. However strongly you may feel when you meet your partner, remember, things may not be the way you 'dreamed' it to be.

There is no fairy tale magic which happens in earthly relationships which is more bumps than walks in the Garden of Eden on moonlit nights. To make any relationship work, it takes two to put in their efforts. You need to communicate to your partner about extending a bit more to make both hands clap. Learn to accept your partner's personality, attitudes and habits and never to correct too many things at the same time. Remember, we are what we are. Any change forced on us would make any one resent.

• Inject humor in your life: Laughter is the best medicine they say. It is not just a medicine but a daily necessity to make anyone tick. Any relationship can thrive if even one has a good sense of humor. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself and watch the ease and comfort increase in your relationship. Many times when there is no laughter in the house, try to walk that extra mile, to inject humor from external sources like getting humorous friends over, watching funny movies together, etc.

• Respect and trust comes before love: While love may trigger a relationship but it is respect and trust which make it last. Admire some quality in your partner and encourage him or her to culture this more. Respect your partner for what he or she is and not because you have made him or her according to your wishes. Respecting your partners' choices and preferences is also important. Trust can not develop overnight and inculcate this quality and regard its importance in a relationship.

• Change your perspective: It is selfish to view everything from your own point of view. Learn to be compassionate and look at things from your partner's perspective. You would be surprised at what you find.

Capacity to give and forgive is one of the best ingredients which can make a relationship get stronger. So the best piece of breakup advice one can give to couples who wish to save their relationship is this: Get into your partner's shoes and see the problem. You would know exactly what to do to save the relationship.