People get into relationships all the time attracted by appearance, nature, qualities of the other person, loneliness. Relationships break for the same reasons of appearance,nature,quality and faults of the other person.
Everyone has faults. Someone might have too much pride, might never apologize for mistakes, others might have difficulty in expressing their feelings. There are some critical faults and not so critical faults. Critical faults are beyond reconciliation like cheating on a partner is.
People searching for perfection / the perfect mate will never find one. Initially blinded by the glow of a new relation, people feel they have their perfect partner. As time goes and the gloss comes off the faults appear. Then comes the period in which partners acknowledge each others faults and learn to live with it. A period might also come in which they can no longer live with the other person’ faults.
So a relation starts breaking.Quarrels occur. Reconciliations occur. Sometimes they don’t occur as pride comes in the way. Each person feels the other is at fault and should be the one who apologizes and moves the relation back on track .
In a successful relation people learn to live with the partner’s faults. Someone adjusts or both adjust. Not only do they live with the partner’s faults but they try actively to minimize their own faults. Sometimes the faults are irreconcilable for people . Sometimes they do learn to forgive.
Whatever be one’s faults the skill of admitting mistakes and saying sorry is something which everyone should learn .It is the basic pillar of any relationship. Saying sorry, admitting one’s fault seems to be the hardest thing for some people. They will argue and argue, but never accept that they might have done some mistake , have faults in them.
This skill is essential not only in romantic relationships but also in dealing with friendships, workplace, relatives and any other .
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