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Ever since we met each other, my beloved husband filled my life with love, light, joy and happiness, with music and special moments!



Monday 24 October 2011

CAIRO - amazing every day (part one)

In Arabic, CAIRO means "The Vanquisher" or "The Winner" and if you take a close look at the bustle of Africa's largest metropolis, you can easily understand why. Every day, Cairo survives the changes it is subjected to and greets tourists straight into the very heart of Arabian culture.

Even if from home, Cairo might seem an unsafe realm, things are different once you set foot in the Egyptian capital. Tourists remain respected guests regardless of time or season, so the Giza pyramids, the Egyptian Museum or the 500 mosques must stay on the list of architectural wonders you must see at any cost. And if it's during the fall, temperatures in the land of Egypt drop bellow 30 degrees and Cairo gladly lay its beauties at your feet, ready to fill you up with history, to present its traditions and lure you with its local cuisine. So step right up for a journey through the fabric of history and modernity!

A stroll through the realm of pharaohs

As soon as you land at Heliopolis Airport, you are greeted by the Egyptians' merchant skills, as they are used to take joy in tourists' wish to know as much as possible of the pharaohs lands' cultural richness. The offer is unmatched from souvenirs and hookahs with apple, peach and melon flavored tobacco to trips on the Nile on  board a felucca, a small, narrow ship with sails and oars, that the Egyptians have been using since the time of the pyramids. Moreover, you might also get an offer for a trip to the pyramids.

But take your time. Cairo must be enjoyed at leisure, one fascinating detail at a time. And any trip in the Egyptian capital must begin with a visit to the Egyptian Museum, the place where Ancient Egypt's treasures sit in state in glass window, carefully placed next to nine mummies of the most recent royal figures, including the one of Queen Hatshepsut, discovered by archeologists only in  the 1980s.
The ground floor of the museum hosts a vas collection of papyruses with fragments in Greek, Latin, Arabic and Ancient Egyptian. Right next to them unfolds a bit of Ancient Egypt's economy, with an entire series of gold, silver and bronze coins of Greek, Roman, Islamic and Egyptian origin. Be sure not to miss the large - scale artifacts of the New Kingdom (1550 - 1069 BC), which includes statues, tables and sarcophags of the Egyptian society's upper class.
Up on the first floor, the museum hosts artifacts dating back to the last two dynasties of Ancient Egypt, including treasures retrieved from the tombs of the Pharaohs Thutmosis III and IV, Queen Hatshepsut and the courtier Maiherpri. But the most important riches of the Egyptian Museum are revealed only now: the famous mask of Pharaoh Tutankhamen, made of 11 kilos of pure gold, alabaster vases and jewels of ivory and gold, all are part of the over 3500 artifacts found in the tomb of the famous Egyptian Pharaoh.

Built by the Egyptian government in 1835 near Ezbekeyah Garden, the museum was moved on the shore of the Nile, at Boulaq, 30 years later, because the initial building was no longer big enough to host so many artifacts. In 1878 however, the new building of the museum suffered permanent damage after the river overflowed. This is why the authorities had to move the exhibits to another museum in Giza. The artifacts stayed there until 1902, when they were moved, for the last time, in the current museum in Tahrir Square.

Saturday 1 October 2011

Travel through the desert

A scientist went on a journey through the desert of Sahara. He was accompanied by several Muslim Bedouin guides to not be lost in the middle of the desert.

Every night, the Bedouin who attended him, laid a rug on the sand and began to pray to Allah/ God.  
One evening, the researcher asks:
- What do you do, why you put your face on the sand?
- We pray to Almighty Allah (God).
- But did you ever met Him?  Did you spoke with Him? you have achieved Him?
- No.
- Then that is silly to pray to someone who you do not know!
 
The next morning, the scientist noticed some footprints in the sand. After making some research, he told the Bedouins accompanying him:
 
 
- There has been a camel passing!
- Have you seen it? Have you heard? You put your hand on it? asked him the Bedouins.
- No, but left some traces and or sure it was a camel.
- And we too we see an oasis and we are happy to find it in our way because we drink water and we cool ourselves from the heat of the desert. We are happy when in our way we find one tree that we can rest under its shadow. We are glad when the sun rises and begins a new day. All these are tracks left by Allah, the Almighty.

Blessed are those who believe without seeing Him with their own eyes. Allah leaves us new signs every day, and we must learn to recognize and enjoy them when they come in our way.

Friday 23 September 2011

Egyptian jewelries

 
Before the beginning of the 1st Dynasty in 3100 BC, the Egyptians already had access to precious metals, and throughout the Dynastic Period they acquired it in ever increasing quantities, at first from the Eastern Desert and Nubia, later too as tribute and spoils of war from Syria and the north.
The Egyptian craftsmen used these enormous amounts of gold in many and varied ways - to gild lesser materials, to plate wood and stone, solid casting it into small statuary, hammering and cutting sheets of it into elements of religious and ceremonial furniture and funerary equipment. However, its most widespread use was in the production of jewelry, both that worn by the living and, in particular, that made expressly for the adornment of the corpse. Egyptian funerary beliefs required that the mummified body be bedecked with the finest products of the jewelry- maker's art and, whether for amulet or collar, pectoral or diadem, the first choice of material, indeed the prescribed material according to some of the funerary texts, was gold.

Materials used in Ancient Egyptian Jewelry:


  


The Egyptian jewelry-maker did not use precious stone; what he held the most valuable the modern world would consider at best only semiprecious. It is, perhaps, even more surprising that some of the most characteristic and pleasing effects were obtained using man-made materials, such as glazed composition and glass in imitation of semi-precious stones. Furthermore, most of the materials used were chosen not just because their colors created a particular effect, but because colors for the Egyptians had an underlying symbolism or amulet significance. Indeed, in the case of funerary jewelry, certain materials were strictly prescribed for the magical properties of their coloring. Thus Chapter 156 of the Book of the Dead required the amulet in the form of the Girdle Tie of Isis, placed at the throat of the mummy, to be made of red jasper, whose blood-like coloring would enhance the words of the spell: ‘You have your blood, Isis; you have your power.’ 

Green was the color of new vegetation, growing crops and fertility, hence of new life, resurrection even. It was, in particular, the color of the papyrus plant, which in hieroglyphs actually wrote the word wadj, meaning 'to flourish' or 'be healthy'. Wadj was also the name for the emerald-green mineral malachite when it was employed as Egypt's principal green pigment for painting and as the main constituent of green eye make-up. But the green stone most favored by the Egyptians was turquoise -mefkat- whose Egyptian name in the Late Dynastic Period was used as a synonym for 'joy' and 'delight'. Apart from turquoise (and green glazed composition and glass in imitation of it), the principal green stones employed by Egyptian lapidaries were green jasper, green feldspar (also known as Amazon stone), prase, chrysoprase, olivine, serpentine and, in the Graeco-Roman Period, beryl and peridot.

Dark blue was the color of the all-embracing, protective night sky, of lapis lazuli- and of the deep-blue glazed composition and glass made to imitate it. Curiously enough, khesbed (hsbd), the principal word for lapis lazuli, was used in the Late Dynastic Period, like the word for turquoise, as a synonym for 'joy' or 'delight'. It is difficult to believe that the Egyptians could not really distinguish between blue and green, yet the suggestion that the usage arose because of the linking over a long period of the materials turquoise and lapis lazuli is not very convincing.

Red was the colour of blood with all its connotations of energy, dynamism, power, even life itself. But it was also the colour of the evil-tempered desert-god Set, patron of disorder, storms and aridity, and murderer of his brother Osiris. This curious dichotomy is reflected in the fact that khenmet (hnmt), the word for red jasper, was derived from the verb hnm, 'to delight', but cornelain, with its orange-red hue, was considered an ill-omened stone and in the Late Dynastic Period its name, herset (hrst), also meant 'sadness'. Sard was the third red stone employed by the Egyptian lapidary, and from the New Kingdom onwards all three could be imitated by red glass and glazed composition.

The Egyptian jewelry-maker made use of an amazing variety of stones, minerals, metals, man-made materials and animal products. Most were obtained locally in the hills and deserts within Egypt's boundaries and from creatures which inhabited the Nile Valley and surrounding areas, but some, most notably lapis lazuli and silver, always had to be imported from beyond Egypt's farthest frontiers.

Examples from the Materials used by Egyptian jewelry makers:
  • Alabaster
  • Amethyst (a translucent quartz (silicon dioxide)),
  • Beryl:a transparent or translucent yellowish-green aluminum- beryllium-silicate with a glassy sheen;
  • Breccia is a sedimentary rock in which angular white fragments are set irregularly into a red-colored matrix.
  • Feldspar or Amazon Stone is an opaque, green or blue-green potassium-aluminum-silicate,
  • Garnet is a transluent red iron- or magnesium-aluminum-silicate with a violet or brown tint.
  • Lapis Lazuli is an opaque dark-blue
  • Quartz (Mtlky) is a hard, opaque white variety of silicon dioxide.
  • Turquoise is an opaque, pale sky-blue or blue-green copper-containing basic aluminum phosphate which the Egyptians obtained alongside copper ore at Wadi Maghara and Serabit el-Khadim in Sinai.
  • Gold production of jewelry of every description: amulets, pendants, diadems, pectorals, bangles, earrings, finger-rings, anklets, torques, elements of collars, girdles and bracelets were all manufactured from the precious metal. Indeed, certain chapters of the Book of the Dead demanded that prescribed amulets and funerary jewelry be made of gold.
  • Silver was at first called by the Egyptians nub hedj (nbw hd), later just hedj, which means literally 'white gold',
  • Copper was the first metal known to the Egyptians and as early as the Badarian Period it was being made into beads. Bangles and finger-rings

Egyptian Craftsmen
Egyptian Craftsmen

In Egypt the great workshops attached to the temples and palaces where fine-quality jewelry was produced were under the control of high officials; it is their names which have survived and in their tombs that the manufacture of jewelry was depicted. Far less often are known the names of the craftsmen who actually shaped semi-precious stones into inlays, delicately tapped and chased precious metal into jewelry elements or strung beads into intricate collars, and most of those named are goldsmiths - the Egyptian term is neby. 
Although part at least of the jewelry-maker's art involved working with precious metal (indeed, it is no accident that the activities of precious-metal workers and jewelry-makers are always depicted side by side), still remarkably few of the skilled craftsmen who called themselves neshdy, earlier mesneshdy, are known. This word is best translated as 'jewelry-maker', although it actually means something more like 'worker in semi-precious stones'. However, the ability to shape a hard stone into an inlay to fit snugly within a cloison or to form an intricately detailed amulet from a pebble was the essence of the Egyptian jewelry-maker's art, far more than the craft of the 'bead-maker' - iru weshbet - or 'stringer together of a collar' - seti nub. 

Nevertheless, a recent study has identified less than thirty named men who bore the title over a period of fifteen hundred years, from the early New Kingdom to the end of the Ptolemaic Period, and no tomb of a neshdy has ever been discovered.

Bracelets and bangles
 

The Egyptians used the same term, menefret (mnfrt), for bracelets and anklets but by adding the words 'for the arms' - net awy (nt'wy) - they were able to distinguish quite clearly the functions of these ornaments, which often came in matching sets. Another even less informative term, 'appurtenance of the arms' - iryt awy ('ryt 'wy) - was employed in the same dual way. 

The earliest bracelets are in some ways little more than shorter versions of the strings worn around the neck. The finest examples - four in all were found on a wrapped arm in the tomb of Djer at Abydos. The one nearest the wrist consists of lapis lazuli and hollow gold balls, flanking irregularly shaped turquoise beads and gold triple ring-bead spacers, with a single hollow gold rosette at the centre; these are strung on gold wires and animal hair plaited together and were originally closed by a loop-and-ball fastening. The best-known bracelet is composed of twenty-seven alternating turquoise and gold plaques, the latter apparently cast in an open mould in the form of an archaic crouched falcon atop a rectangular serekh, with its characteristic palace facade paneling. 

The serekh usually contained the Horus name of the king, associating him with the ancient falcon-form sky-god, and a series of dots on each bead may be a crude rendering of the serpent hieroglyph with which Djer's name was written. The beads are graduated in size, with markings on the back of each to indicate its position; a single pyramid-shaped bead of gold at each end acts as a terminal. A series of gold plaques embossed with the cartouche of Sety II surmounted by feathers, with suspension rings at each corner, came from the Gold Tomb in the Valley of Kings; although eighteen centuries later than Djer's serekhs, these plaques presumably formed a similar royal bracelet.

Finger-rings
In the Badarian Period simple rings of horn or stone were probably worn on the finger. That was certainly the function later of small strings of beads, gold-foil bands and wires of copper or silver closed by twisting the ends together. By hanging a scarab on the wire before twisting it shut the most popular form of Egyptian finger-ring came into being, although sometimes, as in the case of a 17th Dynasty woman buried at Qurna, it was merely held in place on the finger by a fiber cord. Two fine early examples of scarab finger-rings were owned by Sithathoriunet. 

In each the gold wire shank is twisted together opposite the gold scarab bezel; the scarab's wings are inlaid with strips of turquoise and lapis lazuli, its thorax with cornelian, its head with green stone and its legs with cornelian and blue and white composition. There were a number of finger-rings in Mereret's cache, of which two gold examples have an elongated oval rigid bezel, one patterned with tiny granulation lozenges, the other chased with four spirals. Her remaining gold rings have scarab bezels, one of them inlaid exactly like that of Sithathoriunet, the others made of lapis lazuli, turquoise, amethyst and glazed composition, some with texts, the others plain.


Saturday 17 September 2011

There is an Egyptian in everyone of us

Born Egyptian or married with an Egyptian, living in Egypt or just having connections and friends from Egypt - well it is absolutely impossible not to be "embraced" by the Egyptian influences.
Like this soon you will realize that in you is living an Egyptian too :). How you can discover this? We are about to find out :).

1.You know "1 minute" = 1 hour
2.You hear people around you saying "estubid" and "owet" for "stupid" and "out" and you find this so normal
3.You want to hit anyone who drives you crazy with anything that is near to you, anything from a shoe to a bowl
4.Your relatives brag about their kids even if they are bad and you approve them
5.Your favorite food is warah aneb (ma7shi), but you are embarrassed to tell your friends that you eat leaves for dinner
6.Your future 'taunt' asks you when she can dance at your wedding
7.You start to use more cologne than deodorant
8.You pronounce "the things" za sings", just because it is a "local Egyptian" way to say it
9.Your relatives swears at their kids with words that effect them and not the kids "ya ibn il kalb!!!"
10.You put tahina in and on everything and brag about how healthy it is because Egyptians are using it since thousand of years
11.You gossip about your own family...with members of your own family
12.You eat kofta at least 4 times a week
13.You cook a meal that lasts a week
14.You watch the hell out of the Arabic channel
15.You have billions of cousins
16.At weddings it takes the bride and groom 4 hours to hug and kiss all the guests and everybody hits their drink with their forks
17.You "get down" from the car instead of "getting out" of it
18.You love to laugh and smile :D
19.You have a gold necklace of your name written in Hieroglyphics or Arabic (coz it is a must since you are Egyptian)
20.You play cards till the break of dawn
21.Your friends usually say things like: put za sings in za sing
22.You can't have a meal without aish baladi (arabic bread)
23.You feel proud when someone famous or a celebrity has any Egyptian blood in them
24.You teach your European/ American friends Arabic words (mostly bad ones) and get happy when they use them in normal conversations
25.You have ten different foods at your dinner table
26.You get really happy and call the whole family to the room when there is a special or documentary on Egyptians or anything Arabic related on CNN or PBS
27.You have lefa hair...and if you don't, u have curly hair
28.You own a grocery store or a gas station or a shaorma store
29.You smoke as if it were your last day on earth...and you only smoke apple or manga sheesha
30.You own and/or play a tublah
31.Your middle name is your father's first name (the same applies for the kids when your husband is Egyptian - my husband has 9 names :D - K M M Y M I Y M I)
32. You’re probably pre-med or engineering and you want your kids the same
33. You could kill for some macarona bil- béchamel, mashi, and baba ghanouk 
34. Your parents think Umm-Khalthoom IS what's hot (yes true :)))))) )
35. You invented and perfected the art of bellydancing
36. You’re probably the loudest in your circle of friends
37. You know a cup of tea is shai-bil laaban, not bil haleeb
38. You know Egypt’s got it down for movies, music, and clothes~
39. Whenever you meet a fellow Egyptian in a store, you get a discount.
40. You’re ALWAYS LATE….it’s a gene, ok?! (true again to me too)
41. The only maintenance you do to your car is a car wash, or not even.
42. Your wife is also your first cousin or from ur family (I saw this :D)
43. You are bald and fat and blame it on stress.
44. You got a lot of money and drive a BMW or a Benz and still can’t pick up any women.
45. After a family meal, the women fight to the death over who should wash the dishes while the men sit on their behinds and discuss politics, waiting for their tea (not my case :P)
46. Walk around the house in your underwear coz it is too hot
47. Watch the hell out of the ART channel and talk nonsense about the rest.
48. Ur only source of news is Aljazzera or neighbors
50. You got more than 4 kids (not my case again :P)
51. Your middle name is your father’s first name. (lol so true in my husband case :D)
52. U have about millions of cousins.
53. Act like you want to pay, but in reality you hate to pay.
54. You are standing next to the largest suitcases at the Airport. (tha't me :)))) )
55. Your Parents scream into the phone, and if u don’t answer your phone they leave about 200 messages on your voicemail. (happen to me too with my parents and now with my husband too, although he knows I m at work :)))) )
56. When u try to explain your Egyptian friends to your European/ American friends u say they r your cousins.
57. If you’re an Egyptian woman u always complain on how your fat u r…and how u always lose weights on fasts (yes, I know them very well :))))))))) )
58. If you’re an Egyptian woman you always have to bleach ur hair a color not normal and swear it's real (and wear the hijab not to cover the front part so that it can be seen the hair... otherwise, why to bleach it if nobody will see it? :))))))
59. Egyptian men have leefa hair
60. You have "fool” or “Koshary” for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
61. You say words like “ Ezayek”, “Eshtah”, “Gedan” and “Aywah”
62. You ask your relatives from Egypt a simple question and they tell you a story of how they had to walk miles just to get to school.
63. If you are 25 and not married yet, your relatives make you feel that you are getting too old.
64. Everyone is a family friend.
65. People are never happy with what you've achieved. If you graduated from school they'll tell you "3o2bal el Shehada el kebera", and when u get that "3o2bal el 3aroosa or 3areees", and when you get that "3o2bal ma nefra7 be awladkom", and when you get that "3o2bal ma tefra7 be shehadithum", etc...
66. When you FLY BACK home you find 20 people waiting for you at the airport
67. Every time you fly back home you meet relatives you never knew existed and they look nothing like your family.
68. Getting a visa to Europe or the States is like getting a baby, everybody tells you "mabrook" (u get a "mabrook" for everything, even if you just do your nails or buy a pair of socks :))))) )

Friday 16 September 2011

You life is a precious gift! Treasure and cherish every second of your life!

Too often we find more reasons to hate our life than to love it. And you know what? Life hates us back. Here are 77 reasons to love your life. Pick one or add your own in the comments.
  1. love your life for everything you already have
  2. love your life for what you are yet to receive
  3. love your life for all your certainties
  4. love your life for the friends you have
  5. love your life for the wonderful journeys you had
  6. love your life for the friends you will get
  7. love your life for all the bad advice you didn’t follow
  8. love your life for your beautiful memories
  9. love your life for the ones you love
  10. love your life for the ones you forgot, as they are still to enrich your life
  11. love your life for the work you do, as this is your gift to the others
  12. love your life for the jokes you still wait to hear
  13. love your life for the beautiful travels you are still to make
  14. love your life for everything you are not sure about, as it will still challenge your being
  15. love your life for all the beautiful sunrises you remember
  16. love your life for all the fantastic sunsets you still recall
  17. love your life for tomorrow’s sunrise
  18. love your life for yesterday sunset
  19. love your life for the gifts you are yet to receive
  20. love your life for the health you have
  21. love your life for all the beauty you can spot around you
  22. love your life for the ugliness around you, as it serves you to contrast the beauty you are ignoring
  23. love your life for the riddles you haven’t yet solved
  24. love your life for all your unanswered questions
  25. love your life for all your victories
  26. love your live for all the good advice you followed
  27. love your life for all your lost battles, as they are your precious lessons
  28. love your life for your enemies, as they are there to give birth to you forgiveness
  29. love your life for all the small things in your life
  30. love your life for all the ambitious goals you’ve set
  31. love your life for all the answers you got so far
  32. love your life for the smiles you get every day
  33. love your life for the smiles you give every day
  34. love your life for your energetic mornings
  35. love your life for your romantic evenings
  36. love your life for the life rediscovered through the eyes of your children
  37. love your life for the smell of the rain
  38. love your life for the gifts you still have to make
  39. love your life for all the games you haven’t yet played
  40. love your life for the next first snow
  41. love your life for all the great ideas you had today
  42. love your life for all the great ideas you will have tomorrow
  43. love your life for tomorrow’s surprises
  44. love your life for today’s gifts
  45. love your life for all your fulfilled dreams
  46. love your life for yesterday’s memories, they are there to enlight you
  47. love your life for all the nice words you haven’t yet said to your loved ones
  48. love your life for all the nice words you heard from your loved ones
  49. love your life for all the nice people you haven’t yet met
  50. love your life for all your mistakes, so you can have plenty of time to make up for them
  51. love your life for all the adventures you haven’t yet had
  52. love your life for all the books you haven’t yet read
  53. love your life for all the books you haven’t yet written
  54. love your life for all the unborn challenges you still have to face
  55. love your life for all the stories you haven’t yet heard, written or imagined
  56. love your life for the person who’s looking at you from the mirror every morning
  57. love your life for the nurturing family you already have
  58. love your life for all you have to share with others
  59. love your life for all you’ve lost in your journey, as it will only make room for something even bigger
  60. love your life for the feeling of your heart overflowing with love
  61. love your life for all your unfulfilled dreams as you will have plenty of time to make them true
  62. love your life for all the opportunities that are waiting for you just around the corner
  63. love your life for the personal freedom you conquered
  64. love your life for everything you created so far
  65. love your life for the beauty of every spring
  66. love your life for the energy of every summer
  67. love your life for the emotions of every fall
  68. love your life for the cold beauty of every winter
  69. love your life for all the beauty inside you, waiting yet to be discovered
  70. love your life for all the fantastic colors that are shaping your world every day
  71. love your life for all the wonderful music you’ve heard so far
  72. love your life for all the people you have met so far, they are your precious universe
  73. love your life for wind that caresses your face every day
  74. love your life for the all the unexpected changes of your plans
  75. love your life for all the fights you avoided
  76. love your life for all the crossroads you meet every day, they are there to offer you the best path you can chose
  77. love your life for every single second, as this is all you have, only this infinite second.  


Thursday 15 September 2011

Husbands, be careful what you wish ^___*!


A man was sick and tired of going to work every day while his wife stayed at home. He wanted her to see what he went through each day, so he prayed :- "Dear Lord, I go to work every day and put in 8 hours of hard work, while my wife merely stays at home. I want her to know what I go through, so please create a trade in our bodies". God, in His infinite wisdom, granted the man's wish. The next morning, sure enough, the man awoke as a woman. He arose, cooked breakfast for his mate, awakened the kids, set out their school clothes, fed them breakfast, packed their lunches, drove them to school, came home, picked up the dry cleaning, took it to the cleaners and stopped at the bank to draw money to pay the electricity and telephone bills. 

He drove to the electricity company and the phone company and paid the bills, went grocery shopping, came home and put away the groceries. He cleaned the cat's litter box and bathed the dog. By then it was already 1:00 pm, so he hurried to make the beds, do the laundry, vacuum, dust, and sweep and mop the kitchen floor. He rushed to the school to pick up the kids and got into an argument with them on the way home which he had to sort out in a gentle 'motherly' fashion. He set out cookies and milk and got the kids organised to do their homework, then set up the ironing board and was able to watch a bit of TV while he did the ironing. By then it was 4:30 pm, so he began peeling potatoes and washed greens for salads. 

He prepared the chops and fresh vegetables and got everything ready in time for an early dinner. After supper, he cleaned the kitchen, ran the dishwasher, folded laundry, bathed the kids, and put them to bed. At 9:00 pm he was exhausted and although his chores weren't finished for the day, he went to bed where he was expected to make love, which he managed to get through without complaining. The next morning he awoke and immediately knelt by the bed and said :- "Lord, I don't know what I was thinking. I was so wrong to envy my wife's being able to stay home all day. Please, O please, let us trade back!"

The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, replied, "My son, I feel you have learned your lesson and I will be happy to change things back to the way they were. You'll just have to wait 9 months though, because you got pregnant last night!!!" :)))))

Monday 5 September 2011

Advices for life

Bismillahi Rahmanu Rahim


My wonderful sister Fatimah Mohammed, from her pure heart, wrote a wonderful poem:




 


Wednesday 31 August 2011

101 Ways To Tell Your Husband, "I Love You"

Pick 5 A Day And Watch Your Relationship Blossom!

As we enter into marriage, we may wonder how we ever lived life without our mate. We're focused on each other, and that makes us close. However, the longer we're married, our focus tends to turn to jobs, bills, or children and less on each other. Unfortunately, this causes many marriages to turn cold and some eventually die. Have you ever wondered how people stay married for 30, 40, or more years? Do you want your marriage to last a lifetime? The key is to stay focused on your mate. Here are some ways for you to show your husband your love. Choose at least five every day and watch your marriage blossom into a wonderful relationship!

  1. TEXT HIM A LOVE MESSAGE Send him a romantic text message on his cell. Make sure it's sweet but spicy!
  2. DO ONE OF HIS CHORES FOR HIM Pick a chore that he dreads, such as mowing the lawn, and do it for him. Watch him as he sighs with relief.
  3. START A HOBBY TOGETHER Sharing a hobby together such as horse back riding, completing a home improvement project, or selling on eBay can help keep you close.
  4. PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don't tackle him unless you're laughing!
  5. SHOW APPRECIATION When your husband works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.
  6. MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE Let your home be a haven were your husband can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.
  7. LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS Don't let the little things that your husband does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn't be the same if he didn't do these things.
  8. PRAY FOR HIM Ask God to give him that extra boost to make everything OK. Let your husband hear you pray too. This will let him know that when you can't make it right, you'll ask someone who can.
  9. CHECK BEFORE THROWING THINGS AWAY If your husband has some things that seem useless to you, don't trash them until you've made sure he doesn't need them.
  10. CHECK BEFORE REARRANGING Ask your husband if it's OK before you move or straighten things on his desk or work area. If he has things where it's easy to find, it might make it chaotic if it's moved.
  11. TAKE A WALK OR A HIKE TOGETHER Let nature set the mood for romance! Talk, listen, and hold hands.
  12. DON'T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND If there is something you want your husband to know about you, tell him. Don't expect him to just know what you're thinking or what you need.
  13. LAUGH TOGETHER Forget your adults for awhile, and just act silly together. Also, if something should go awry, try to find some humor in it somewhere. This will also reduce the stress of the situation.
  14. RESIST THE URGE TO SNOOP Don't sneak around and check up on your husband, if you want to know something, ask him to his face.
  15. GIVE HIM A ROMANTIC CARD Don't wait for a special occasion to give him a card. Find the most romantic card you can find and leave it in his car. Don't forget to add your own personal message! Maybe you'll even make him nervous, wondering if he forgot an anniversary!
  16. PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.
  17. TAKE A BUBBLE BATH TOGETHER This is self-explanatory.
  18. E-MAIL HIM AN INVITATION FOR ROMANCE Invite him on a rendezvous with you! Build his anticipation, then tell him to RSVP!
  19. TAKE HIM TO TEST DRIVE HIS DREAM CAR Drive him to a car lot some Saturday, and let him test drive the car of his dreams - even though you probably won't buy it.
  20. LET HIM BUY THAT TOY Permit him to buy that toy he's been wanting so badly. Better yet, put some of your own things off, save the money and buy it for him yourself!
  21. TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE The future isn't as far away as it seems sometimes. Talk about where you'd like to be when you're married 50 years, and work on making those dreams happen.
  22. GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT Don't jump to conclusions if your husband has said or done something questionable. Give him the chance to explain before you pass judgement.
  23. LET HIM BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE Although this is growing increasingly unpopular, it does still work. Just because your husband is in charge of the household doesn't mean that you can't share your opinions, it just means he's captain of the team.
  24. SAY, "I'M SORRY" Although you may not want to admit it, there will be times when you're in the wrong. Maybe you've said something hurtful or done something insensitive. Never have too much pride to tell him you're sorry.
  25. KEEP YOUR PROMISES If you told your husband you'd do something, make sure that you follow through.
  26. RUB HIS FEET Steer him to the recliner and pull off his shoes. Rub his feet for at least 20 minutes. It has been told that this may even improve his health!
  27. MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A LOVER'S PARADISE Turn your ordinary bedroom into any lover's dream without a lot of expense. Remove clutter and anything that doesn't belong, and replace it with scented candles and fresh flowers. Hang pretty curtains and find some comfy bedding. Place mirrors to reflect candlelight, and misting fountains for a romantic effect.
  28. WRITE A NOTE ON THE STEAMED-UP BATHROOM MIRROR While your husband is showering, sneak in and write, "I love you" on the steamed-up bathroom mirror. This will steam him up as well, especially if you seal it with your lip prints!
  29. PUT LOVE IN HIS SUDS I'm talking about a bar of soap! Scratch "I love you" into his soap so he'll find it the next time he showers. (You may not want to seal this note with your lip prints, though).
  30. GIVE HIM A MASSAGE Go buy some sweet smelling oils and turn your bedroom into a spa! Give your husband a full body massage and work out those aching muscles.
  31. PLAY ROMANTIC MUSIC Keep a good deal of romantic music on hand in your bedroom to help set the mood for romance.
  32. PUT A SIGN IN YOUR YARD Place a sign in your yard such as, "THE WORLD'S GREATEST HUSBAND LIVES HERE." Let everyone know how special your husband is to you.
  33. LET BYGONES BE BYGONES If your husband has done or said something to hurt you, forgive him. Don't keep bringing up the past every time you get into a disagreement, especially if he has shown remorse.
  34. BE HONEST Don't hide things from your husband. Be open and transparent. This will help him trust you more.
  35. BRAG ON HIM IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS Men naturally rely on boost in their ego now and then in order to stay confident. Let him hear you tell others about the great things he says and does.
  36. CLEAN HIS CAR FOR HIM Surprise him by giving his car a good detailed cleaning. If you don't want to tackle it yourself, have it professionally done.
  37. PUT HIS PICTURE IN WALLPAPER Let him know that you still think he's a gorgeous hunk by putting his picture on your computer desktop!
  38. BUY A BUMPER STICKER Put a "I Love My Husband" bumper sticker on your car.
  39. WORSHIP TOGETHER The couple who prays together, stays together. These will be very tender and special moments shared between the two of you, as well as important.
  40. EAT BY CANDLELIGHT Cook his favorite meal and light the candles. Take time to focus on each other, and to look into each others eyes.
  41. BE DEVOTED TO HIM One of the greatest gifts that you could ever give your husband is your true faithfulness. This includes physically, emotionally, and in your thoughts. If you're struggling with temptation, nip it in the bud. Tell him your feelings in a sensitive and loving way. Don't bottle anything up, this is asking for disaster.
  42. RUN YOUR FINGERS THROUGH HIS HAIR Or massage his temples if he doesn't have any. Do this while he relaxes. Remember, your touch is important to him.
  43. DON'T CONTRADICT HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS This will only embarrass him and cause people to lose respect. This is especially important if you have children.
  44. DON'T CRITICIZE HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS If you feel that your husband needs a bit of constructive criticism, make sure it's just that - constructive. Don't offer it at all unless it's in a loving way, and in private. Being criticized in front of others lowers self esteem and causes hurt feelings.
  45. DEFEND HIM Don't let others disrespect your husband. Even just a snide comment can hurt. Stick up for him. Don't let someone drive into the ground the most important person in your life.
  46. LOVE YOURSELF Many times we as women hold back on our husbands because of our own insecurities. Learn to let it go. The things that we're so worried about, usually don't even bother him. What bothers him is when we hold back. Remember, although this may sound strange, you can't really love someone until you love yourself.
  47. PAMPER HIM WHEN HE'S SICK Men love to be pampered, especially when they're sick. Make sure everything is comfortable and that he has his "special soup."
  48. LOOK HIM IN THE EYES Look your husband straight in the eyes when he talks to you. Not only will this show that you're interested in what he has to say, but there is something about looking straight into his eyes that will give you butterflies.
  49. DISPLAY YOUR WEDDING PHOTOS Don't tuck away your wedding photos after you've been married awhile, keep them on display. This will be a great reminder of how your love was at the beginning, and how much it has grown.
  50. DISPLAY YOUR MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE Frame the sacred document of your marriage. This will be a wonderful and constant reminder that your love is sealed, and you really do belong to each other.
  51. TRUST HIM Too many times wives just sit around and wait for their husbands to do something wrong. Cut him some slack and dare to believe in him.
  52. HAVE YOUR PHOTO MADE TOGETHER You may have done this when you were dating, but why not now? Get a current shot to place on the bedroom dresser or the desk at work.
  53. LET HIM WIN It is inevitable, even in healthy marriages, to argue occasionally. What would it really hurt to just let him win? At least you wouldn't be arguing.
  54. DON'T GO TO BED MAD Although you've probably heard this one for years, and it may have been your grandmother's first marriage advice to you, it is still true. Going to bed hurt or angry keeps feelings under the surface. When you wake up you don't want to continue the argument, so you you hold in your frustrations and they begin to mount. It's best to talk everything out, and fall asleep in each other's arms.
  55. DON'T COMPARE HIM Don't EVER, EVER compare your husband to another man - not even your father. Your husband is his own person and unique in his own ways. Love him for it.
  56. GREET HIM AT THE DOOR Don't wait for your husband to say, "Honey, I'm home!" Watch for him, and greet him at the door with a hug and kiss.
  57. MEND HIS CLOTHES Buy a sewing kit and repair those sock holes! Break down and sew on his popped-off buttons. This may increase his wardrobe by 20%!
  58. TALK IN CODE Pick a code word for something that only the two of you know the meaning for and say it openly in public. You'll have your own inside joke. This will help keep you close.
  59. HAVE A WRESTLING MATCH This will get you both laughing, and the closeness will be fun!
  60. WAKE HIM UP WITH KISSES Make his whole day go better by waking him up with kisses. He may even keep you there through breakfast!
  61. HELP HIM SHAVE This is a fun way to be close and to get you both laughing! (As long as your careful, that is).
  62. DEDICATE A SONG TO HIM Did you have a song that was "your song" while you were dating? Call up your local radio station and request it, and have them to dedicate it to your hubby!
  63. MAKE HIM A HEART-SHAPED BREAKFAST Make heart-shaped pancakes and heart-shaped toast! Trim little pads of butter into heart shapes as well.
  64. DON'T TRY TO BE HIS MOM Remember you are his wife, not his mother. Don't jump him every time he leaves something on the floor or his clothes don't match. It's OK to lovingly remind him, occasionally, but don't nag him.
  65. GRAB A KISS WHILE YOU WAIT Kiss your husband while you're waiting at the stoplight or in the food drive-through. Your wait won't seem near as long, and you may wish it could last a littler longer!
  66. FLIRT WITH HIM Just because you've snagged him, don't stop flirting! Wink at him, squeeze his muscles and, WHOOOO, or now that your married, it's not at all out of line to be a little bolder in your purpose.
  67. GO ON A LONG DRIVE Go for a long drive and sight see. This is an excellent chance to talk or just be in each other's company. The way gas prices are, you'd almost have to love someone in order to take a long drive. If you don't want to spend the gas, drive to a pretty park or lake and just stop and soak up the scenery while you talk and hold hands.
  68. BE HIS BEST FRIEND Let him feel confident that you'll always be there when needs to talk, to laugh, or even cry. Let him be free to be himself at all times and stick with him through the thick and thin.
  69. EAT AN ICE CREAM CONE TOGETHER Buy one, large cone, and eat it together at the same time. You may miss the cone, and touch his lips, which will even be sweeter!
  70. CHERISH THE SMALL THINGS Concentrate on the way he walks, the way he talks, his smile, or the way he says your name. These are really more important than you think, and no one can do it quite like him.
  71. HELP HIM WITH HIS CLOTHES Ask him to let you help with the buttoning or unbuttoning of his clothes as he's dressing or undressing. Caress him gently as you're doing it.
  72. KEEP YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE It's easy to fall into a "house wife" mode and just walk around in "cleaning clothes" with your hair twisted into a mess. That's OK while your actually cleaning, but try to be more presentable by the time your husband sees you. Bathe, put on clean clothes and a dab of perfume, and set your hair nice.
  73. DON'T PUSH THE BUDGET It is important to learn to live within your means. If you can't afford certain things, don't buy them. Financial stress is very hard on marriages.
  74. DON'T COMPLAIN Don't complain about your standard of living or whine about the things that you don't have. If your husband is doing his best to provide for you, make the best with what you have. If you complain, this makes him feel that he is not a good provider, and this is a great blow to his self esteem.
  75. HAVE A PILLOW FIGHT If you must fight with your husband, do it with pillows! Make sure nothing is around that can break, then go into battle! See how long you can go without laughing.
  76. LOOK OUT FOR HIS HEALTH Encourage your husband to get plenty of sleep and exercise. Try to get him to keep medical and dental appointments. Cook healthy meals, and give him nutritional supplements.
  77. BUY HIM SOME SEXY BOXERS Buy several pairs of sexy shorts for him! Try silky, colorful, and glow in the dark! Make sure you tell him what a hunk he is while he's wearing them!
  78. WEAR THE LINGERIE HE LOVES Some wives love it, some dread it, but just make sure you wear it!
  79. DARE TO BE BOLD Too often, wives wait for their husbands to make the first move in the bedroom. Try showing little aggression yourself once in awhile. This will majorly ignite your husband's passion, and the fireworks will begin!
  80. DON'T DEPRIVE HIM Husbands need sex probably more than wives need hugs and compliments. This is one of the main ways he feels loved. Naturally, there will be sometimes you don't feel like it. But even then, if you just give in, you will before it's over.
  81. SPLURGE OCCASIONALLY Although money is a precious commodity to many couples, try to find a way to splurge on something now and then. If you have children, find someone to care for them and get away for the weekend. If you can't afford a trip, find a hotel in or near your hometown with a jacuzzi. If it's still too costly, buy something that you both would enjoy, like a new CD.
  82. WORK ON YOUR WAYS It's easy to see and point out flaws in your husband, but if you're honest, you'll realize that you haven't earned a halo yet. Try to work on your own shortcomings and make yourself a better person.
  83. DON'T BE A PESSIMIST Try not to focus too much on the negative. Keep a positive outlook in your marriage.
  84. DON'T RUB IT IN IF YOU'RE RIGHT If you've disagreed on something and it turns out that you were right, don't gloat about it and throw it in his face.
  85. WASH EACH OTHERS HAIR Jump in the shower and suds up! Watch the water and soap trickle down his face as you wash his hair.
  86. EXAMINE HIS FEATURES Take a moment to delight in your husband's features. The shape of his nose, the set of his eyes. If he catches you staring, wink at him.
  87. SEEK HIS ADVICE Ask for your husband's input and advice on anything from children to what he might like to eat. This will let him know he's needed and that his thoughts are important.
  88. KEEP TIDY Keep things neat and tidy around the house. Decorate and make things look comfortable and welcoming.
  89. TALK ABOUT HIS INTERESTS Bring up a subject that interests him and listen to him talk. Even if the subject doesn't interest you, enjoy watching him as he gets stirred up over the topic.
  90. SHOP FOR HIM When you run to the store, see if there is something that you should pick up for him. This could save him a lot of time or keep him from missing a lunch break.
  91. KIDNAP HIM Plan a special evening, make all the arrangements, then show up at his job just as he gets off work. Tell him to get in the car and no questions. (Make sure you smile, so he don't get alarmed). Whisk him away for a fun-filled evening, then return to get his car later.
  92. RAKE LEAVES TOGETHER Go to your back yard and rake up a pile of leaves. Before you bag them up, play in them together.
  93. DON'T LIVE IN A FANTASY WORLD If you can't read a novel without getting depressed over your love life, throw them away. Many books or movies can portray romance in very unrealistic ways. True love and romance is what he is already doing -providing for you and loving you unconditionally.
  94. GO CAMPING TOGETHER Find a good camp site and pitch a tent! Buy a two person sleeping bag.
  95. DON'T TALK HIS LEG OFF IF HE'S TIRED If your husband is tired and you need to talk to him, go straight to the bottom line and spare the details.
  96. SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM Plug in some flashing lights and turn on some romantic music and start slow dancing. (Clothes optional).
  97. PLAY HIDE AND GO SEEK IN YOUR NIGHTIES Put on your sexiest negligee and challenge him to a game of hide and go seek. He'll say, "Ready or not, here I come!"
  98. MAKE LOVE UNDER THE STARS Find a secluded place and throw out a sleeping bag. Make love by the moonlight as you gaze at the stars.
  99. SIT IN FRONT OF A FIRE TOGETHER Snuggle up together in front of the fireplace and make out. If you don't have a fire place, consider buying an electric one, these look realistic, and are still romantic.
  100. DOTE ON HIM Pick a night and wait on him hand and foot. Draw him a bath, fix his plate for him, and anything else that you can dream up!
  101. JUST SAY IT Make it a point to say the words I love you every single day, and mean it.